Don't you think all heartbreak leads to growth? It may be nuanced. It may be forced on us. It may be internal. I guess, we have to believe this, too, for it to be. I, too, had a very close friend simply disappear from my life. Just left. No explanation. Invited to my wedding. Never responded. No card. No text. It was if he had used me as he wanted and needed at a particular time and then he didn't, like a prescription. I, as prescription, ran out. It still feels weird. Probably a lot of unanswered questions. He changed, I probably did, too. Friends for life, friends for a season, friends for a reason. Not everyone is going to be in your life forever.
This has happened in the entertainment/writing world to many folks I know, and it always strikes me that the person taking "the prescription" would probably be better off getting a proper diagnosis first. What they want is usually something other than they think. There's a koan about a heart broken and stomped on so many times that it became the most beautiful thing in the world. I do believe that's true, David.
I appreciate your message now--the loss or, rather, the dropping off of people I once considered friends. Ghosting is the worst, and I do wish individuals had enough self-confidence to tell others of their need for absence. Not knowing why is awful, and causes much needless self-castigation and hurt.
Your framing as their need for absence has healing power. Thank you, and peace...
Thank you for this kind response. The whole "sometimes it's not up to us" line carries some tough but beautiful truths. I suppose it's all part of the journey. :)
Don't you think all heartbreak leads to growth? It may be nuanced. It may be forced on us. It may be internal. I guess, we have to believe this, too, for it to be. I, too, had a very close friend simply disappear from my life. Just left. No explanation. Invited to my wedding. Never responded. No card. No text. It was if he had used me as he wanted and needed at a particular time and then he didn't, like a prescription. I, as prescription, ran out. It still feels weird. Probably a lot of unanswered questions. He changed, I probably did, too. Friends for life, friends for a season, friends for a reason. Not everyone is going to be in your life forever.
This has happened in the entertainment/writing world to many folks I know, and it always strikes me that the person taking "the prescription" would probably be better off getting a proper diagnosis first. What they want is usually something other than they think. There's a koan about a heart broken and stomped on so many times that it became the most beautiful thing in the world. I do believe that's true, David.
Right there with you. :)
I appreciate your message now--the loss or, rather, the dropping off of people I once considered friends. Ghosting is the worst, and I do wish individuals had enough self-confidence to tell others of their need for absence. Not knowing why is awful, and causes much needless self-castigation and hurt.
Your framing as their need for absence has healing power. Thank you, and peace...
Thank you for this kind response. The whole "sometimes it's not up to us" line carries some tough but beautiful truths. I suppose it's all part of the journey. :)